HAPPY New Year? Really?

Happy New Years – I think. I mean, that is what we’re supposed to say, isn’t it? We say it every year, until the illusion passes and we go back to work and the kids go back to school, broken toys in the corner of their room.

Federal workers are returning gifts for the money because landlords still expect rent money, and Trump is lying and said the workers are happy to have their life (and their own personal happy new year sacrificed) because they want him to build his ego – centered big beautiful wall so he can brag about being the best goddam president the United States has ever had. He is going to make the American people pay for that wall if it’s the last thing he does (and hopefully cashes in his chips – at his own bankrupted and closed casino in Atlantic City.) 

But personally, what do we actually do different that makes it possible to have a good and happy year? For most people, probably nothing  They are tired, trying to survive so the don’t pay attention to it. 

I saw not ONE personal new years resolution this year, because they really are a joke. What I DID see was ( too many to count in my head) sparkling posters on Facebook messenger flashing HAPPY NEW YEAR in big multi – color letters; an impersonal and meaningless way to say you care – to someone you don’t care about and have never met. 

So what is it that we (as a country and personally) are going to do differently this year that will make this a happy year? We pretend everything will get fixed by somebody, and say the same thing every year. Then we forget about it for 12 months and do it again.

I’m being cynical – intentionally – The polical climate in the US of A is so bad that it’s citizens hate each other, and that hate is CAUSED by corrupt politicians who are fighting over how much more they are going to screw us and the country in this new year – AND WE ARE SUPPOSED TO BE HAPPY? And yet we put on a hat, watch a ball in NYC drop down again, party a little, wake up and go about how we are going to survive the year and fruitless I Oops a little security for ourselves as debt climbs.

Yeah, happy new year.

You Only Have One Life – Live It!

 

You Only Have One Life - Live it.Your opinion of yourself becomes your reality. If you have all these doubts, then no one will believe in you, and everything will go wrong. If you think the opposite, the opposite will happen. It’s that simple. The higher your self-belief, the more your power to transform reality. Having supreme confidence makes you fearless and persistent, allowing you to overcome obstacles that stop most people in their tracks.” – Robert Greene

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This is the way I think. I know this affects what happens in my life. We are what we think. There is a saying I have repeated many times throughout my life:

“If you think you can, you can. If you think you can’t, you can’t. You are right on both counts.” 

If I didn’t believe I could do it I would have given up what I am doing right now – writing my book, “Inside The Forbidden Outside.”  I could have stopped. No one would have cared. Many people have started books they never finished.

If you have followed me at all in the last three years – I’ve been writing this book for that long. I never thought it would take this long. It’s a massive project since I added music and videos. I’m 43,000 words into the 2nd draft, and plug away at some aspect every day. 19 chapters, one finished today. The first draft had 88,000 words. I learned a lot – about what was wrong with it. I also learned how much I didn’t know so I started studying everything I could before I started the second draft 10 months ago. You can read chapters at my other blog: mynameisjamie.net

I think this time it’s better. I know it is. I’m determined it will be. I’ve learned that I love to write. I think I can be good at it – and it doesn’t matter how old you are when you begin,

This is why I wrote down these quotes. I stay focused. I keep the end result in my head and don’t allow myself to doubt. It would be easy to think, “Who am I to think I can do this.” I’ve heard, “First books are never successful – I don’t want you to be disappointed when you fail.”

It is rare for me to take a day off. I am always working on some aspect, even if it just keeping up my social media accounts, because it keeps up my fan base with music, or readers. It grows. When I need a break I play my piano.

It would be easy at my age to not begin new dreams and opt for the comfort of what is known, but that isn’t me.

One of the main things that drives me is that Jamie’s life is in the balance. Re reading all of his letters multiple times as I put his story together, crawling inside his head is overwhelming. Reading letter after letter from the last umpteen years, and knowing where he is now, I don’t know how he does it except he has no choice. I have to finish this for him, and I need to finish this for my grandson.

In the past 5 weeks I recorded 7 new piano pieces – that I kept. I don’t keep everything I record because it is all improv. The latest one will be in the next post as a music video. Writing music for the book keeps my head balanced. Everything fits together. To hear and see my music, videos and photos go to sonniquick.net Get on my mailing list. If you like the music, share it. It is the best way to help me.

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The main thing I’m trying to get across is to never give up. Dream. Do what makes you happy. You only have one life. Make it special. Believe in yourself even if you’re the only one.

Have a great day! Sonni

You’ve got to love yourself — Cristian Mihai

“Your opinion of yourself becomes your reality. If you have all these doubts, then no one will believe in you, and everything will go wrong. If you think the opposite, the opposite will happen. It’s that simple. The higher your self-belief, the more your power to transform reality. Having supreme confidence makes you fearless and […]

via You’ve got to love yourself — Cristian Mihai

This is how I live my life and how I keep going. I tell myself – and others – you are what you think. You accomplish what you believe you will accomplish it. Don’t doubt. Be patient. The road will open for you. But if you don’t think you can do it, whatever it is, you will surely not.

Do You Live For Yourself – Or Others?

Do You Live For Yourself – Or Others?

 

Did you grow up in your hometown, marry young, buy a house close by and stay there for the rest of your life; or did you spread your wings and fly off, finding new places and new friends, living places you chose to move to as the opportunity presented itself and saw life as an adventure? Is one way better than the other? Look at yourself now. Did you do the right thing? Would you admit it to yourself if you didn’t? Would you go back and do something different?

I’m in my mid 60’s. I enjoy my age. I think I’ve acquired a bit more wisdom, and a heck of a lot of determination to finish life pleased with how I lived it. I climbed the mountains and survived – so far. As I look back on my life, each decade I went through was in a different place as well as a different way to survive, staying away from the conventional paycheck and instead relying on my ingenuity.

I know clearly where I was at each development of wisdom. Why me? What made me want to experience newness while the rest of my family felt comfort and security was more important because everything stayed the same? Someone I grew up with once told me she wished nothing would ever change. She’d stay in her house. She said she didn’t need any friends, they were too much bother. Was that her idea of happiness? Looking at her life now what effect did that have on our relationship? Not a good one.

What makes one person want to experience the newness that comes along in life? We have a choice to grab onto it or ignore it. Do we take the chance to make new friends or change careers, or perhaps begin a new hobby, and another person in the same family chooses the safety of only what is familiar, the comfort of routine and the predictability of sameness. Work the same job for decades even though they hated it? For the paycheck? It is worth giving up the possibly of finding a creative part of yourself just to stay in your predictable comfort zone?

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It takes all kinds of people to make the world go ’round. There isn’t one perfect way that is good for everyone. I chose long ago to not live with fear of the unknown. Any day could be my last – your last. I would rather leave this life with a smile on my face with the possibility of a new adventure on the horizon. When do you stop living with anticipation? “What if I went there and learned how to do that?”

The real definition of failure lies in never trying; crawling into your routine until you can finally justify your actions by saying, “I’m too old.”

Long ago I developed a mantra and have told it to many people along the way who also have had people in their own lives who had opinions about how they should live their life, even though it wasn’t theirs to judge. “If you don’t like what I’m doing, don’t watch me do it.” I don’t care what other people think about my life, especially when they don’t want to be part of it.

I’ve never owned a home, nor have I wanted to. I want to be able to leave when I’m ready, and I don’t want to have to repair the roof or other maintenance.

I want to be able to choose how I spend my day. Will I ever “grow up?” I seriously hope not. Life should be enjoyed. If you take care of yourself you have a better chance of not letting age bring you down where all you have to talk about with your friends are your medical problems. I will go out with a fight.

Every day you wake up is a day you can fill to the top with things of value. You are what you think. You attract people in your life who appreciate who you are.  If they don’t appreciate you get rid of them. They aren’t worth the trouble. The people I grew up with became people I couldn’t be around any more. Or rather, they couldn’t be around me. My mother told me more than once, “You scare them.” Inner strength and confidence makes some people uncomfortable. So I was kicked out of family get-togethers because maybe I’ll say something outside of the platitudes of talking about jobs and weather. I also hate gossiping about the perceived misfortunes of others.

Everyone has a choice about how they are going to live their lives. Some are waiting to die hoping for happiness later. I choose to be happy now – or die trying!

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Taking the Train Back To The Keys

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I’m taking the train back down to the Keys until mid July. ( But I think it will be a bit  more  modern than this and maybe a little more comfortable.  I have developed a love for the train. A bit longer to travel be a whole lot but a lot less stressful. I’m hooked.

I’ll be first stopping first in Ft Lauderdale for a couple days to visit an old friend I haven’t seen in far too long, and hopefully make some music. We had a heavy metal band in 1982. He was also my voice coach. Eventually, from singing too much and abusing my vocal cords, I developed callouses on my vocal cords. I started sounding like Rod Stewart.

I quit singing from forcing too much power out and singing in smokey bars. I had to quit. I could sing for a short while and the callouses would swell.  Nothing came out.  So I thought letting them rest would help. But even talking too much made me sound too gravelly. My ego wouldn’t let me be someone’s sideman on keyboards.

I’ve spent years developing my own sound on keyboard without singing. Now it is maybe time to write lyrics and try again. My lyrics had become poetry. I think I should get the old vocal cords checked out, sing softer, learn a different style and practice some good voice exercises. Broaden what I’m doing. What do you think?

Anyway – time to go!  See ya on the train!

75 Inspiring Quotes About Success

Success, as with most things, starts with attitude. When you’re struggling, a small burst of inspiration can make a huge difference. Here are 75 quotes about success to inspire you to keep pushing forward and achieve your dreams. “If you set your goals ridiculously high and it’s a failure, you will fail above everyone else’s success.” James Cameron “Success usually […]

I saw this today on another blog and I encourage you to follow the link below. Sometimes it is what you read that either lights a fire under you or validates what you are already doing and tells you that you are on the right track. I have a project I work on, that if you have followed my blog (s) you are aware of what I’m doing. I started working on it seriously three years ago and a year ago I started over – because I knew I could better. I had to keep the vision of the end result in my head, knowing my brain would figure out the details and understand the steps along the way.

There is one quote about seeing the dots that connected everything when you look back on things you have already done to succeed.  We can’t see the dots ahead of us so we need to stay focused and confident in ourselves and have no doubt about what we are doing. We are what we think. If we think doubt ourselves we will fail.  If we think we will succeed we will, but sometimes success and what we want changes along the way and we need to be flexible.  If I didn’t stay focused every single day I would gradually make excuses on why I got sidetracked – just like most people do who don’t keep their gym memberships and why New Years resolutions are usually a joke. If we don’t tell everyone we know what we are doing then it is easier to stop because you won’t need to explain.

Click on the link below – you will be glad you did.

via 75 Inspiring Motivational Quotes About Success — Simpliv LLC

Within Her – Mom Life

She is radiant… She is pure…. She is everything….

via Within Her (a poem) — Mom Life

 

 

To raise a child that isn’t “perfect”, according to society’s standards, forces the parents who are expecting that perfect person to re evaluate what it means to be a perfect child. Any preconceived ideas of how to be a parent are thrown out the window in order to allow their child to grow to become the best they can be. Parent and child grow together – not without difficulty and not without a lot of patience.

When I was raising my children I know that most of the time I saw them as children. I knew they would grow up but I didn’t really see them in my head as adults. I was too busy trying to get through my day, and their day.

Now my children are in the age 40 range with children out of high school and living their lives. My stepson, because time was spent to allow him to become who he wanted be, and was supported through school to bring out the talents he was born with, was able to become the man he is today. I’m very proud of him. I was privileged to be Mom Sonni.

I love you Jonathan!