Anti Gay Pastor Arrested For Child Porn

Those that scream the loudest usually have something to hide sexually and it seems, in my opinion, at least, they are white Christian men whose “jobs” are connected to religion and politicians. Many of those men are fighting against the very thing they got caught doing.  Do they think if they convince the public that they are sickened by these things no one could possibly think these nasty thoughts go through their own heads? It seems like a new one pops up every week. Or maybe they think it doesn’t matter because Jesus has saved them from their sins so they don’t have to worry about it. What is it about believers in God and pedophiles, not that they are the only ones of course. Lots of men are, even sports coaches. It seems the only men who aren’t pedophiles are gay men and transwomen. Maybe that is just another case of though dost protesteth too much.

But really, those that teach children right from wrong and preach they are anti gay yet disgustingly molests kids? That screams “You’re going to hell!” to me!

What is lacking in the Christian religion? So the lesson here is: those who scream the loudest about an issue like this to the public need to be watched very carefully. We should post guards on church restrooms!  Don’t let any make Bible thumpers alone with precious children. Between this guy, the priests, the 19 or 20 and counting kids who vr CD cf

Maybe God is very busy with the thousands of planets we have now in our ever expanding universe that he doesn’t have time for this corrupt little world anymore. Religious men are more a threat to children than trans women .

Pedophile pastors – what is the world coming to?


The More You Connect, the More You Grow!

What a great idea this is. So often we don’t know where other social media is of blogs we follow.

Dream Big, Dream Often

Leave me your social media links in the comments and I and others will LIKE, FOLLOW, PIN and CONNECT!  There are around 170 bloggers that have left their social media links in the comments so have at it!   I like social media because I can interact more often with other bloggers and on a more personal level.  It’s nice to get to know those that you read about and that visit your page.

Here are mine:

Twitter @BigDreamer0323

Facebook: Dream Big, Dream Often

Linkedin: Danny Ray

Google +: Danny Ray

The Dream Big Channel




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I Have a Question About Blogs

I don’t ask this in a negative way. It is just a thought that crossed my mind as I looked at blogs today – ones I decided not to even pull up to see what they have to say – not that everyone would be interested in my two blogs, either.

I started thinking about what does and doesn’t interest me. How do we present ourselves to others so they would want to open our blog. What is it we think is most important for other bloggers to know about us from our very first sentence?

I am Buddhist. I’ve written about that in different ways on my blog in posts that have something to do with faith and religion. But I don’t feel the need to make that the number one thing that is important for people to know about me above everything else.  My being a Buddhist is not why people read my blogs.  In other words,  I don’t write a Buddhist blog.

I think faith is personal. Your faith shows by who are. Is your faith the first thing people need to know about you? Is it important for people to know you are Christian before they read your blog? Does any other person of another faith feel the need to know you are a follower of Christ? Do people of other faiths put their faith at the head of their description of their blog. I’m Morman. I’m Muslim. I’m Jewish. No, but by reading their blog you’d find that out.

I have friends of other faiths. It isn’t a prerequisite to be Buddhist to be friends if you respect each other and don’t insist on converting or say, “I’m right and you’re wrong.”

Please, don’t be offended. I’m not saying to not write about your faith. I write about mine, too. It’s an important part of who I am. But I am much more than a Buddhist. What I have learned through the teachings of Nichiren Buddhism has changed my life in many positive ways. But my blog is about much more than Buddhist teachings. If I made being a Buddhist an important part of the description of my blog mI’ll be a lot of Christians wouldn’t open my blog and I would have missed meeting some great people.

I have come across many Christian blogs that are only about the teachings. Nothing wrong with that. ButI find when someone has to tell me they are Christian before I even know what their blog is about – I skip right by it. It looks like it is the focus of their blog. If someone tells me up front they love to sew then it looks like it is a blog about sewing – skip – if it says they are concerned about the food we eat – I open it – if the most important thing is they love dogs – skip, I don’t have a dog and never will. Do you see what I’m getting to? There are many non Christians who won’t open a blog who gets emphatic about being a Christian. Do you only want Christian followers?

I would have checked out that blog if the bio was about what was in the blog, so they lost a potential reader because they didn’t use the space to tell me anything interesting.

Of course this is only my opinion. Everyone is welcome to think differently. I would be interested to know what you think.

Has Anyone Else Noticed The Amount of Spam Getting Through?

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It’s never been this bad.  They are finding ways to circumvent getting stopped.  They make the spam sound legitimate, except that you know it doesn’t fit what you wrote.  I actually had 7 get through today that akismet didn’t keep out.  I was able to stop them at that point.  I had one that got through a few weeks I didn’t catch, and now I keep having programs try to install themselves and I have to go back and redo the registry to an earlier date to get rid of it.  I can’t permanently get rid of it, and my husband is a computer guy who knows what he’s doing.  I think it’s in my system now.  So be careful!

Do People Actually Read What You Write?

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Sometimes I wonder, do people actually read what you have written or do they just go down the reader and click like?  Some people only put up a picture or a few words and you don’t have to actually go to their blog unless you want to write a reply.  But if you don’t go to their blog when you like something it never registers on their stats so they never know who actually paid attention to it. It’s not a great way to build confidence.

How do we write a blog? Why do we write a blog? How do we respond to other people’s blogs? Everyone wants to have good stats, because when there aren’t any, it’s really pretty disheartening and you feel unloved and unappreciated. We want people to read the words we have taken so much time to write, edit and possibly rewrite.  Many of the posts I write take me take me hours, especially if I’m adding pictures and links and possibly music.  I know they are read by the replies I get from people, and it is what keeps me going, Not everyone replies, I know that. But sometimes, it only takes a few minutes to let someone know you appreciate what they are doing. It matters. So I leave a lot of replies. Sometimes we have good days and some days we feel ignored.  Sometimes it depends on the time of day you post or it can slide on by.  Facebook is terrible for that.  The list of posts grows so long so fast. If someone doesn’t take the time to scroll down it gets lost.

I’m writing the today because I put up a post recently that I checked soon after and it had three likes but there had been not view or visitor to the site. Not one. How the heck can you just like a post without even reading what it was about. If the entire post fit on the review of the post through the reader then you’d think there was no reason to go to the blog. But nothing I write fits in that area. I actually write my posts. Do I want posts that “looks” like people were interested and read it, which isn’t true?  I appreciate those that like my posts, but I’d like to ask that you not like it unless you genuinely have at least read the darn thing. Doing that you just might find out something you’d be glad you read, or maybe even found out something you didn’t know.

Now, since someone would have to read this post to find this out, what will be the end result? I doesn’t make me happy to have people “like” me and not know why.

The End

P.S.  Your thoughts? How do you feel about this? Incidently, this post took me an hour and twenty minutes to complete. Was it worth reading?

Are You Using StumbleUpon the Right Way?

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All of us want people to read what we write. We think we written a good post but our stats are low. If we don’t get good readership in the first few days it gets pushed down the line. A couple months go by and maybe someone will click on it.

When I look to see how other blogs are doing with their social media. Some, like twitter and facebook are used a lot, but StumbleUpon, if you even use it, usually has (1) beside it which means you probably posted it there yourself. That won’t work.

I’m assuming you have an acct there. If you post it there by sending it from your blog you have absolutely no control over how it is listed. Here’s an example: On my other blog, My Name is Jamie. Life in Prison I write about Jamie Cummings life in prison and maybe that post is also about the extreme lack of good medical care. If I post it to SU from my blog SU will probably pick up on the word “medical” because they have no category for “prison” issues and it will end up in “doctors” and I can be absolutely sure it will bring very little readers to my blog.

Instead, copy the URL of the post. Open StumbleUpon separate. Your face (or avatar) is on the right. A down arrow is beside it. When you click on it there will be options across the top. Click “add a page”. There is a line where you can pick the category in which to put your post. Since there is no category for prisons I ALWAYS put it in crime. You can also write a summary of what the post is about to entice people to click on the posting that brings them directly to your blog.

StumbleUpon is not really a site people will often send your post. You want to use it to bring readers TO you. But when I’m surfing I will often send articles there. Other people who use ST only as source to read and stumble, but don’t have a site they are trying to promote, have certain categories they go to they have picked as one of their interests, and ST will show them new posts in that category. If your blog has a general theme I would put every post in that category so your name becomes recognized in that category, and SLOWLY you will get followed.

You can make lists but it isn’t required. I make lists so I can go to the one for each of my blogs easily and see how all of them are doing without having to go to each post on my blog to see if the numbers increased. You can also put your post in more than one list. Example: You wrote a poem. it is about family relationships. Initially, if you write a lot of poems put it in the category “poetry” and then create a list for poetry and family relations and put it in each list. Right now I have 36 lists.

I have found that people do not comment. You just want them to come to your blog. People who are not WP bloggers have a hard time commenting and liking a post. You should use the comment form and the comment will go to your email. Some people will follow your blog by email but if they miss it you can always end each post asking them to fill out the form to receive new posts by mail and send them each new post by sending out a group email.
I saved the best for last. It is called “Stumble”Upon for a reason. If you have written a post that resonates with people they will click the “thumbs up” button and send it on. The faster it stumbles – the faster it stumbles. I’ve gotten lucky and several posts so far have brought 600 – 9000 readers and still stumbling every day. Once they come to your blog it opens the door to reading other posts. You just need an additional way to help people find you. Sometimes they peak, slow down and then it starts stumbling all over again. Go to this post in Jamie’s blog and look at the numbers.

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The average number of stumbles on my posts so far is between 60-100. (and that is in addition to the stats I’ve gotten from WP and other places.) While you are at the SU site do good for other people’s efforts and do your share of stumbling posts you like. Find sites you like and follow them. I’ve had several follow me back, but since I use other SM sites I don’t have time to spend a lot of my day there. Check out the category for social media. You will find other posts on how to effectively use StumbleUpon and other types of SM. I am going to post this post there as well. I didn’t learn this way of using ST from anyone so maybe it will be of help to other people too. Good luck. Come back here and let me know how it works for you! Reblog this on your site and help other people, too. Whether you’ve been at this for a while or if you are new, every bit of knowledge helps us to do it better.

Using StumbleUpon the right way will increase your readership at least 30% or more – from my personal experience.

Oops – forgot something important. If you are only using a tablet to create posts, the option to select a category and write a blurb aren’t there – at least they aren’t on my Nook. So I go to either my desktop or laptop to put it on StumbleUpon

Why are you writing? Plus a Q and A Interview With a Published Writer on How She writes

How to write a bog,I want to be a writer, Sonni Quick,Sharp Turn to the LeftI guess it all depends on why you’re writing in the first place. I mean, do you really want to write, so you start a blog with absolutely no friggin’ idea of what to write but you have this itch to write something that has the possibility of leaving a part of you permanently in place, for others to read and learn about you even if you depart this earth? How I wish I had the writings, the baring of one’s soul, from people in my past that I am unable to talk to because they are very permanently long gone, unable now to tell me what is in their head. Their fears. Their hopes. Their thoughts of being unable to stop the forward march of death.

A blog is begun. You aren’t sure of what to do, what to write. Can you write? Do you even know where to put a comma? Is your spelling and sentence structure atrocious? Does that even matter? Or do you just think about it for awhile and slowly , bravely, venture into it thinking it would be a really cool thing to do, writing things other people read. And then after a few weeks you go damnza, this is fun! So you learn and learn and try to find out everything you can about writing a blog so you can make it as good as possible, and then wait to see if anyone comes to read it. You enjoy yourself, and think, I could be a writer! You have begun the process of reinventing yourself. I’m a pro at that. It keeps life interesting, constantly challenging yourself to be more than you have been!

To do it right takes a lot of time. It’s like a job, but you don’t get paid money. You do get paid though, in page likes and comments and having interesting conversations with people from all over the world! It’s great for confidence building.  It’s teaches you how to communicate in words.  Learning how to write a blog is different from sending someone a newsy email.   You tell yourself, “I want to be a writer,”  and sometimes you have to reinvent yourself to do that Lastly, yes, blogging is fun.

I never slam out five line blog posts that don’t have a point – somewhere. Some are deeply personal that have  tongues wagging from people I know who say, “How could you write that! What will people say! OOOh well. My life is an open book and I have nothing to hide. I have no need to hide myself from anyone or make excuses for myself. We all make mistakes. But do we learn from them? That’s the key to reinventing yourself and making yourself happy. If other people don’t like it I’m not in control of that.

This is the blog I use to rant and rave and get things off my chest. My other blog is my serious one, the one that matters because there are lives at stake that it will affect. BUT do I take everything I write seriously. Is there a point to all this? Is there a reason I’m still up at 4 AM tweaking my words and researching how to do this right? Yes. Very much, yes. Because I reinvented myself – again – and if I decide to do something I will tear it apart with my teeth. I will grind it up and chew on it like a porkchop bone and obsess on it until it becomes the best I can do. I am addicted to it the way bees are drawn to the nectar of flowers.

I have always quite simply loved to write. To make the thoughts in my mind take concrete form, the same way the notes of my music is a concrete form of my emotions that I can step back from and witness it the and way as strangers.

I knew when I was young, there were different roads I could go down and each road would send my life into a different direction. I loved to dance. Did I want to be a dancer? I did eventually do that – but in strip joints from age 30 until my 40th birthday, quitting before I looked like I should, and was damn good at it. I think there are many women who have wished they looked good enough to dance naked and many women do in the privacy of their own homes.

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This all took place after the years being a professional musician – a singer/keyboard/guitarist  who trashed her vocal cords singing incorrectly in too many smokey clubs. This is why I have the ability now to write the music I do, with the passion I play with.  But back then my ego stopped me from being a sideman to someone and be just a keyboard player who didn’t front the band.  Wrong choice, but I needed to take care of my kids, that’s why I started dancing and made a lot more money than I did as a musician. I never got a single nickle of help from their father. (But today, many years later we are friends. He is their father. Besides, I have become friends with all of my x husband’s.)

Did I want to be an artist? I have untrained talent, if I wanted to use it. My desires were all in the arts. Did I ever even one time ever want to be something like a dental assistant? God no! That thought scared the crap out of me. ( no slam on dental assistants here. We need people who want to be that.) But the thought of me spending my life in something so completely uncreative would have been a living hell for me.  That was my nightmare, waking up living in a track house in a suburb, which I did for a very short time when I tried to have a real job – by society’s standards . I couldn’t live a life with my time so structured and having no flexibility. I needed my life to support my life, to be able to create my income by who I was. Have I been thrown major curveballs? Huge ones. But I pick myself up. Dust myself off. Then I carry on. Sometimes life sucks. Get over it. Treat yourself and go buy a bag of gummy worms.

I went through many life changes. I called them “Sharp Turns to the Left, a title of an autobiography I spent the better part of a year writing fifteen years ago. A book in which I was going to be brutally honest about myself. I had to stop writing it because I thought, “Oh shit, if my mother reads this it would just kill her. She’d die of shock knowing the things her little girl did. “But now, after moving back to within a block of where my mother lives and spending literally hundreds of hours talking, I don’t think there is much I could write now that could shock my mom anymore than I already have, so maybe I could go back now and finish writing about my life – after I finish the book that is devouring me at the moment – InsideOut- with the newly changed working title of – Inside The Forbidden Outside – the nonfiction book about the life of Jamie Cummings. In Huntsville Prison. What guided his life to be where he is and what kind of man did it make him. What kind of man did he become. In our letters he let me into his head no matter how painful it was. You can find links to my other blog, “My Name is Jamie. Life in Prison” on the side of this blog and finding 3 of the chapters I I have posted pretty easily.

So what is the point of this post? I think the point is that we all write for different reasons. Some people write as a career choice, a current career our a hopeful one, like mine. Some write for fun and aren’t interested in branching out and are satisfied with having only WordPress readers, which are indeed valuable worldwide. Some people are excited that something they wrote is on the web for the world to see, and there are some that heal their hearts and minds through writing.  A catharsis takes place. There is a place for every single one of us. Just so long as it brings you benefit of some kind is all that matters.

I was thinking about this today because of this article, a writer I never heard of and thought about how she writes. Her process and went to links of things she wrote. I try to learn something from every writer. How do the structure sentences. How do think about what they mean? I thought, since we’re all a bunch of writers maybe some of you would find value in this article – an interview of how she writes.

So what do you think about it all?  Tell me.

Plus – thank you for getting to the end of this rant and listening to me yammer on . . .

Beyond The New Yorker

vanessaVanessa Grigoriadis—a National Magazine Award-winner who has written dozens of features for New York, Rolling Stone, and Vanity Fair, among others—is a writer that many of us can envy: Over the years, writing has gotten progressively easier for her. She writes at a freaky-fast pace. And her initial visions for her stories, she says, work out 75 percent of the time. Essentially, a writer’s dream. But Grigoriadis also shares what she finds are the hardest parts of the job and her various quirks (hint: elaborate procrastination), and how, once an aspiring actress, she came to choose writing instead.

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