You’ve got to love yourself — Cristian Mihai

“Your opinion of yourself becomes your reality. If you have all these doubts, then no one will believe in you, and everything will go wrong. If you think the opposite, the opposite will happen. It’s that simple. The higher your self-belief, the more your power to transform reality. Having supreme confidence makes you fearless and […]

via You’ve got to love yourself — Cristian Mihai

This is how I live my life and how I keep going. I tell myself – and others – you are what you think. You accomplish what you believe you will accomplish it. Don’t doubt. Be patient. The road will open for you. But if you don’t think you can do it, whatever it is, you will surely not.

Within Her – Mom Life

She is radiant… She is pure…. She is everything….

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To raise a child that isn’t “perfect”, according to society’s standards, forces the parents who are expecting that perfect person to re evaluate what it means to be a perfect child. Any preconceived ideas of how to be a parent are thrown out the window in order to allow their child to grow to become the best they can be. Parent and child grow together – not without difficulty and not without a lot of patience.

When I was raising my children I know that most of the time I saw them as children. I knew they would grow up but I didn’t really see them in my head as adults. I was too busy trying to get through my day, and their day.

Now my children are in the age 40 range with children out of high school and living their lives. My stepson, because time was spent to allow him to become who he wanted be, and was supported through school to bring out the talents he was born with, was able to become the man he is today. I’m very proud of him. I was privileged to be Mom Sonni.

I love you Jonathan!

World’s Oldest Bodybuilder at 80

oldest-female-bodybuilder-grandma-80-year-old-ernestine-shepherd-19This is incredible!  Sadly, people are getting fatter –  sloppy, diabetic, unappealing, and often stuffed into spandex. Yet we look away and try to be polite and not stare into their grocery carts at the horrible food they eat, when knowledge of that bad food is out there and you could educate yourself. They fool themselves, and we help them believe that fat is beautiful. No. It. Isn’t. They will likely die sooner because of it.

People think that just because they are getting older it is normal to “Let yourself go”. It isn’t. We see examples of older people who care about themselves. They don’t give excuses for bad behavior. They don’t say, “I have a thyroid problem,” to try to not take responsibility.

When I saw this 80 year old woman in this video I was blown away. I’m not saying everyone should be a bodybuilder but there is no need to have your fat giggling down between your legs as though that is normal. There is no need or excuse to have fat kids. Now Diabetes is up for kids causing them ill health they never needed to have.

You obviously can do what you want, but maybe this will give you a little encouragement. If watching this video doesn’t fire you up to do something for your life then you are beyond helping. Love yourself and do something about it. Sometimes we get in a big rut and don’t like ourselves very much but we are going to eat our way into major illness if we don’t do something about it. Some people say, “You have to go somehow,” but having come close to dying from illness myself I can tell you, if that happens you are going to be wanting to change it real fast but it will be to late.

It’s hard to keep up the incentive to change but it is up to you to find people to encourage you to change your attitude about getting older.

This is a picture of me when I was 31 and working out with weights. I’m exactly twice that now. I don’t want to be a body builder at this point in my life but I want my health to be better than what it is. After a liver transplant in 2012 I was exercising to get into shape. My physical therapist told me I could never look like that again. I listened to him and quit. Then my back fractured from osteoporosis caused by liver disease. I Also have a herniated disc mid back and have a spinal cord stimulator up my spine for pain. Now I’m recuperating from a bad fall 3 months ago and half my left arm and elbow is now metal. Trying to make my arm work at all is challenging. Bending it, lifting it or straightening it is painful. Today for the first time I could reach my left arm over and put on deodorant, while gritting my teeth, but I did it. What an accomplishment! Watching this video was the incentive I needed to work harder.

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I was so afraid I wouldn’t be able to play the piano, but if I’m careful I can hold my arm up for 10-15 minutes but because nerves are healing it is hard to move my wrist back and forth. I’m going to start recording videos of my progress. Saying this means I have to follow through.

My doctor told me not to hope for much. One surgery was bad enough. Having to replace the bone in the shoulder socket and screw two plates together over my elbow and hold it together with 13 screws made it was worse. He said I’ll be disappointed if I try for too much. He thought 70% function was possible. That isn’t good enough.I can’t even touch my face.

So this video gave me hope – the incentive to try harder and exercize more. A year from now where will I be? I’m not one to give up. Are you? Wish me luck!

Rhonda – Life Interrupted

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This quote is for the Quick family.  My niece, Rhonda, from my first marriage, who was the little flower girl at my wedding to her uncle, was only 4 years older than my son.  The following day was her 43rd birthday.  This was a shock for the entire family because we don’t expect something like this to happen to someone who had no life threatening medical problems that she knew of. She never made it home that day.

Last week, on her last day at work, she was cleaning out her office because she and her husband Donovan were moving the next day to live closer to their twin boys who were going to school at LSU.  They were packed ato leave and the  boys missed her.  She and Donovan were ready to go on with a life that held all the promises of a new chapter to live.  She missed her boys.  But she was found that day by an employee, gone, for no obvious reason.  She was okay when she left for her last day of work, regretfully alone, with no one to say goodbye to. That thought brings tears to my eyes.

The Quick family is a large family.  At least they have each other.  Lots of kids and grandkids and great grandkids, aunts, uncles and cousins.  The matriarch, my former mother-in-law is a wonderful woman, who has always had a full house and everyone was always welcome.  I may  have divorced her son, but I didn’t divorce the family.  My heart goes out to all of them at this time.

LIFE INTERRUPTED  by Sonni Quick   copyright 2015                                                      (please use headphones if using  a cellphone or laptop – piano tones sound tinny without good speakers.)

Donovan, her husband, I never had a change to meet, but I heard about thim hrough the years.  My daughter, Rhonda’s first cousin, said he loved her very much.  Please accept this gift of music,  I recorded this yesterday for Rhonda.  I turn the feelings I have inside into music so I have something to share with you and your boys and the rest of the family.

Debbie, her mother, I’m so sorry.  There are no words that will suffice.  Richie, Sandy, BJ, and Robert  – her siblings – take care of yourselves.  Be good to yourself.  We should appreciate every day we have because we never can know how short life our life could be.

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To my readers:  There is also a link to this piece of music “Life Interrupted” on facebook. It will also take you to other tracks at http://soundcloud.com/sonni-quick.  Soundcloud is a new venue I’m using for music I write, so if you like what you hear, please like and share, because those numbers influence new people who chance upon my name.  Most of this music I want to share with the publication of the book I’m writing, “Inside The Forbidden Outside”.  Self promotion is a long, hard labor of love.  Soundcloud is a great place to hear new artists, as well as established ones.

Also – if you are new to my work, please visit my other blog, “My Name is Jamie. My Life in Prison” http://mynameisjamie.net, which is about Jamie Cummings, the father of one of my grandsons who been inside for fourteen years of his life.  His Birthday is January 10th and I posted his address if anyone would like to send him a birthday card.  This blog tells you the human side of people in prison which is far different than what you probably think it is.  We a have a lot of room in our hearts to care about people who are less fortunate.

Remnants

……….What would the world be like if there was no hope.

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Remnants of hope vaporises
With every falling rays of the sun,
leaving behind a pale patch if its existence,
to be soon covered with dust for
No one to see,
No one to know.
They say
“Rays of sun are Rays of hope”
But hope doesn’t dry away hope
Just like cold does for cold,
Fire for fire….
Nobody feels the pain behind those empty hopeless faces,
masked with smile…
“Better luck next time”
Becomes the sweet lullaby for sleepless nights,
Making expectations grow,
Crushing little hope on its way !!

Gayatri !!

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“Second Time Around” Piano Music By Sonni Quick

Words and music by Sonni Quick

copyright 2015

SECOND TIME AROUND
Dedicated to Bryan

Find your life
gather up the pieces
Heal a broken life
forget the pain
slowly time erases
Put it back together – again
in a way that shows the world
now who you are
learn to be a friend
to those who know your worth
is so much more
than you were outside that locked door
Take the time
to think before you act
Reach and hold the hand of those
that reach their hand toward you
Don’t let your old ways
decide how you react
Use anger in a better way
to teach the chosen few

Life dealt a crushing blow
to the soul of one so young
No one to protect you
from the time your life began
It’s not easy
to be a different man
It takes more courage
than simply wanting life to change
don’t find a single reason
or try to place the blame
or the effects of all your causes
will come full circle back to you
if you react the way you learned
that action will undo
and scatter all the pieces
you’ll be lost again
Remember
No matter what life gives you
you’re stronger than before
using all your past mistakes
to learn and grow a little more
Did you know the man inside
deserves a better life
and when you finally get to walk
out through the open door
don’t look back
that’s in the past
this new life that you’ve found
is the second time around

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“The Fallen” Piano Music By Sonni Quick

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This is for every person who has been abused by our justice system. Every life who has been taken away. Every family who has been destroyed. Every child who has lost their parent. Every parent who has lost their child. I actually wrote a different post for this music because it makes me angry when people – or corporations – who profess to care about our country but who really do everything they can to line their own pockets and care nothing about the people they destroy. Enough said. The information is there for you to find if you choose to find it instead of listening to the choir sing to the choir. I will continue to try to make a difference and do what I can to help those I can.

I do not “compose” the music I record. There is no plan. It is not written down. I don’t think about it. I just play it. My fingers play what I feel. Everything is improvised. I couldn’t play it again. My fingers have a mind of their own. It is a language. When you speak, do you think about each word and put a sentence together before you speak it? Do you write down each word so you know what you said? Can you just make up sentence after sentence because you know the language? Of course you can. Most people, when they learn an instrument, they learn through method books that teach them how to read the notes and play it. Just like we learn the alphabet and learn how to make words. We learn to improvise with those words and it becomes a language that conveys thoughts and emotions. But most music teachers that are hired only teach their students how to play the written notes written by other people. They don’t learn how to play those notes as a language that conveys how they feel or how they think.

Somewhere during my 54 years of playing the piano, starting at age 7, the piano changed from being an instrument to play, to an instrument that understood what I was feeling and I crawled inside it. I became a bystander and separated myself from the act of playing the piano and instead listened to the music as it played itself. What you hear today I can do for hours going up and down the piano keys playing the emotions I feel. If I try to manipulate it, it doesn’t work. My fingers know the piano keys, like an artist knows his paints and a dancer feels the music and his body know what it can do. It’s a wonderful feeling. I also know I haven’t reached the end. I’ve just begun.

Thanks for listening.

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