What Goes Around Comes Around – Every Time


I was responding to a reply to a series of replies I have been having with http://robertmgoldstein.com, a man with tremendous insight. A man who takes the time to understand the workings of his mind, to make sense of his life. I was going to put the exact post this reply was on but realized, if you haven’t been to his site, you would most likely benefit from going.  But I decided to put my reply out there to you – to see what you thought.  Do you agree? Disagree?  Does it make sense to you?  Can you apply it to your life?

hmm . . .I think that very often, people lack appreciation for their life. We use so little of our minds. I try to stretch mine, to understand things that don’t make sense. For example – someone does something to you. You don’t think you deserve it and are a victim of the intentions of someone else?  It is done “to” you for no reason?  Do you not want to take responsibility for it because you are angry?  Today, that is my quest for understanding. There is something deeper going on. We can call it several things depending on what you believe. 1. You reap what you sow. 2. What goes around comes around. 3. You get back what you dish out. 4. the law of cause and effect. If you have ever uttered any of those words, then why is it that things are done “to” you and it isn’t your fault? Whatever you sowed, you reaped. whatever went around came back around and smacked you. If you dished out something negative – or positive – you get it back. If you made a cause, you will get an effect. If you jump off a building you will smack the ground. You can’t choose when you want cause and effect too work.

I am also in total awe of life. If people spent more time accepting responsibility for everything that happens to them in their life, they would feel less like a victim. They would be more considerate about the way they treated not only their own life – but others lives as well. This is why you can “feel” the power of the words people spoke or wrote that you admire. But if you only listened and said “that’s nice” and it didn’t affect you in any way to apply what you learned to your own life, we would have exactly what we already have now. So much hate. People not caring who they hurt. Using religion as a weapon. But even if we change one small thing inside ourselves it will show on the outside. The microcosm and the macrocosm.


  1. Good post. I’ll have to check out the original post and replies to get a full understanding. I definitely agree that we lack appreciation for life and it seems as time goes on that this is getting worse (or it could be I’m getting older).

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    1. Thank you very much for readying. Studying life and life conditions has been a quest of mine for the past 27 years. It is how we view life and how we respond to it that sets the state for our future. If you want to know what causes you made in your past you need to only look at the things that are happening in your life today. If you want your future to be a certain way you have to make the causes for it to be that way or else life just slaps you silly. Then most people end up saying, “Why did this happen to me, I didn’t do anything to deserve it?” Then they go to their higher power whatever that it and say, ” Pray and say, Fix this. Change this situation for me. Help me.” Often that higher power isn’t even gone to unless there is a problem. Call for help in time of need. Sometimes we are able to change a situation and sometimes we can’t, but whatever happens then we think it is what the higher power wanted for us, never thinking that it was ultimately something they did in the past that caused it.

      So, in my own life a lot of crap is happening that has made me angry. Too much to get into, but it took me back to the drawing board to fix it because it is indeed my ultimate cause and the other players in this scenario are there to help me change my own karma – my own causes – because this is making me unhappy, and they don’t even know it. But many people point a finger and say, ” it’s your fault and you need to change, whatever” That will never, ever, ever work, and it hasn’t worked for me either. So maybe I will write another post about overcoming obstacles. The things that keep you from being happy. The things that get in the way of you having the life you want in any way. The relationship problems we have where we think that WE are the okay person and the other person is being the a**hole. Heavy subject, and so darn interesting. Wow!

      I wrote and earlier post called, “The nature of an obstacle” about an actual happening. You might want to read it. Bear in mind, though, that the ending can be thought of 2 ways. See if you can figure it out.

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        1. I was named Deborah when I was born, which was shortened to Debbie, and changed it again in Jr High to Deby. At the age of 19, after I left home, I started playing pool. One time when I was hustling pool an undesirable section of Hollywood, CA, the man I was playing (and winning) asked me my name. For whatever reason I decided not to give it to him and the “Sonni” came out of my mouth. It stuck. I later married my first of 3 husbands, and his name was Rick Quick. So I became Sonni Quick. In addition to shooting pool ( I laid my stick down when I was around 40) I was a professional musician for years, teaching and singing and playing piano. ( I no longer sing, but I do compose) It made a great stage name – I am now on my 3rd husband (15 years) and I am still Sonni Quick. I don’t think it necessary to take on a man’s name. I am now 60 and I’m still Sonni. 4 years ago I moved back home for the first time. OMG there are now people calling me Deby again! I don’t even know that person anymore. Finally my mother and I made a compromise. She calls me Deby when she’s around me, but in public she calls me Sonni. I don’t want to accumulate any more people who call me Deby. lol Also, you can hear I piece I just composed and recorded (blindfolded) on my latest post at http://mynameisjamie.net

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        2. Very interesting history on your name. I was married 3 times as well although I’m no longer with husband #3 (didn’t take his last name, I learned my lesson after the first 2 plus I like my name). My middle son is a pianist (he went to Indiana University with a major in music but then switched mid-stream to psychology). Him and a buddy of his are in the process of recording their first album.

          I just listened to our piece – beautiful although a little sad. One of the things I like most about blogging are all the talented people I’ve met. I don’ t think I’ve had as much appreciation for art as I have since I started blogging and it’s such a beautiful thing.

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        3. Okay, this one I had to listen to it a couple of times and I read the post as well. I like your methodology, it’s like your music literally comes from inside you.

          It sort of reminds me of street smarts vs. book smarts. You can take a book smart person, send them into a situation where they have to fend for themselves with very little resources and even with all their education, they’d struggle. However a person with street smarts can adapt to almost any kind of situation.

          My son didn’t learn how to read music until he was in high school even though he’d been playing for many years prior. He played by ear. I had a friend I went to school with who learned sort of the same way and wow, was he ever gifted!!

          I’m going to have to listen to some of your other links as well (I just wish I had more time in the day to do all that I want as well as what I need to do). My major complaint since losing my vision is that it takes FOREVER to do things that used to be a snap but I manage. It’s just frustrating at times.

          You make beautiful music!!

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        4. Sorry about your vision. I have very poor vision and I’m used to nothing being clear. Sometimes a little fuzzy around the edges is better than clarity, but to lose even more of my sight would be hard. I’m not sightless. Most times we don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone. I’m not trying to sound harsh. That isn’t my intent. My husband and I were talking earlier about a video he saw where babies and young children were able to hear for the first time with the implant. He said the look on the baby’s face made him cry.

          The music you heard – the day I recorded that I was in so much personal pain. I had spent the better of a few days crying and yelling at the things being thrown at me, still being thrown, but my phone is turned off now. So I sat at the piano to play. That pain is what I played. I didn’t listen to it for a couple days. Then I played it. It was there. The pain was there, in between the notes. I felt raw. I had my mother listen to it today for the first time. She’s heard a lot of my music. She just sat there. With music it’s not always about how fast you can play it or if it is technically correct ( liked you analogy very much) Sometimes it is also about the spaces between the notes, too.

          My son, now 38, plays by ear. I never taught him. I’ve taught for 42 years. He amazed me from an early age. He would even play his version of different classical pieces. He’s incredibly talented. Never went pro, though. He saw me starve as a working musician. Now plays mostly boogie woogie and still amazes me at how fast his fingers play. Most teachers teach the creativity out of their students by teaching them to play only exactly what was written. Then when there is no music they don’t know what to do. I teach my students to create. Reading the notes is secondary.

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        5. No need to be sorry about my vision. I too am not completely sightless as are most blind people. The number of totally blind people is only about 1% or thereabouts. As a matter of fact today I’m going to do a post on a quiz one of my followers did that brings to the forefront some of the issues associated with vision loss and blindness that many aren’t aware of. Back in the days when my vision could still be corrected just the thought of having vision worse than what I had without my glasses/contacts scared me to death but then it never occurred to me that I would go legally blind. It is true what you say how we don’t appreciate things until they’re gone.

          I’ve secretely envied people who could play piano and dance because these are things I so wanted to do but they are not my calling. But I thoroughly enjoy listening/watching those who are gifted in this area. Sometimes I get so emotional I can’t even express in words how a particular piece makes me feel.

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        6. I was told when I was young that my vision was 20/1000. I think this would translate into a -10? I hear of people saying they had bad vision of say -4. As I got older and the near vison started going I was really screwed. To see something clearly I have to bring it right up to my eyeball. You should see me try to put on mascara because I get so close to the mirror that I get it all over it when I blink! Without glasses it’s like a water color painting that someone spilled a glass of water on. I ended up at when I was about 45 where I couldn’t wear contacts anymore because I’d still have to wear glasses to see the first foot or so, so that was pointless, so contacts were out. I tried triple bifocals but the area in the center (no lines) was too small and I couldn’t find it. So I keep two pair of glasses. One for around the house, lower power, things are a bit fuzzy. ( they were really my reading glasses) and other ones I wear to drive. I can never remember waking up and being able to see, but one of the advantages is – Christmas lights!! No one else can see the colors between the colors!

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        7. I worked with a girl who talked about how severe her vision was at a -4 and I told her she should try a -10 (that’s what I was at that time) but it was still somewhat correctable. Sounds like your nearsighted as well. I never knew that being nearsighted could be an issue but because our eyeballs are so long our retinas tend to thin at the back and in my case I developed macular holes. So it was bye-bye central vision. Almost totally blind in the right eye and when they measure my vision in the left it’s finger counting. I’ll tell you whats annoying though are eye doctors with their jargon. Visionaware.org is working on a document for doctors and other eye care professionals on how to talk with their patients especially when they are losing vision. Being told “we’re sorry there’s nothing more we do” just doesn’t cut it because there is plenty more to be done. It’s like the message here is: if you’re losing your vision just give up, roll over and die. I had to find organizations on my own to help me and thank goodness I did, so now I’m on a mission to help other newly affected individuals so that they don’t have to agonize over how to get through the rest of their lives. It’s not easy but it’s also not impossible. I had to give up driving 5 years ago (that was really, really hard but necessary for the well being of everyone). I hear you with the mascara but I’ve re-learned how to apply it without looking like a panda. And I learned how to use pencil liner on the upper lids. Used to do liquid liner but it’s just too, too messy.

          Like your posistive reference to the Christmas lights lol.


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