A Little Blog Here, a Big Blog There, Why Blog at All?


I think this sorta follows the First assignment from Blogging 201 that just started, when I get the okay to join, but it doesn’t quite answer the entire question so I’ll say that this is only part one.  This is really the answer I put at post by . . .???.  rats, I’ll go back and find it later and put it in because you should read what she wrote that made me write this.  Ahh, here it is http://aholisticwayfarer.com

I had to put a lot of thought into what I was doing with my blog and why I was after it. Beginning a blog and not having anyone one come can really hurt your ego until you realize that no one knows you’re there. My main blog http://mynameisjamie.net was started at another blog site. They didn’t even have a community like wordpress.  No community at all.  I had to go out and reel my readers in by going to other internet sites, to places where I thought the readers would be who would be interested in what I wrote. I would leave comments at online publications. I worked hard at it every day getting my blog out there.  But it worked.

But the blog site I was at was crappy for more reasons than not having a community.  They’d go down for up to 5 days at a time. It was difficult to leave there because they wouldn’t give me the info I needed and it took me 3 months to move everything to wordpress, one post at a time, losing all paragraphs, so I had to redo everyone single of them.  I even found one the other day that I missed editing so I have to go back and fix it.

That blog was not this one.  My main blog  http://mynameisjamie.net  has a narrow focus and it has to do with the prison life of mainly one person and this wouldn’t fit there, so I started another blog, here, just for things like this.  A place to rant and a place to reblog really good posts. Moving my blog to wordpress took a lot of time and for a couple months there was little time for new writing. I was here at wordpress for 2 months before I realized there even was a community. I still go on the internet to find readers that are not bloggers. I don’t depend on wordpress bloggers and social media to be the way I get my words in front of people.   I do think, though, that it creates a nice balance of types of readers.  I always check to see where the referrers come from, and when more come in from internet searches the happier I am because I know then that they are searching for what I write about.  I don’t get a lot of google searches on this blog.

I see a lot of blogs with thousands of followers and many thousands of replies and I take a look at why. I saw a nothing post with 36 relies and the replies had absolutely nothing to say between two people. “great blog”, “thanks” “did you see mine” “yes I did” “did you like it?” “yes” 36 replies of  absolutely nothing of any value. But on the outside it looked like she must have written something great and it sure must have looked good when she saw her stats.  Pointless, unless your also the kind of person who has hundreds of facebook “friends” and you have no clue who they are. You only look at how the quantity is.

I don’t want people to just follow my other blog, or even this one and not come back.  Read the opening page of the other blog and you’ll see why.  My blog has a timeline. It has a story. It means something. Not to everyone, but I want to those it does resonate with, to come back often to see what’s next and for me to do the same for them. So I’d rather have fewer serious readers than a lot of thoughtless likes and a follows who never comes back because they go out and like a thousand blogs in hope that they’ll come back and follow them too, but never actually read anything because they don’t go back.  It’s like a game of tag.   You like my blog and I’ll like yours kind of game.  Big deal, and no thanks.  What turns me off is someone coming to my post and instead of saying anything meaningful about what I wrote, they write, “Thanks for following me”. Excuse me?  The only reply I get is focused on you and not what I wrote?  Don’t come back. I’m not going to approve those anymore. For what? The stats?  It’s insulting to do that for stats.

It’s been a slow learning process when what you write  important to you – when it’s more than just a diary – although they have their place.  I don’t sit there trying to think up something to write.  I have more material than I can get to.  The material is being turned into a book, and you can read the first chapter.  It’s called InsideOut.  Please don’t just tell me something innocuous.  Give me feedback that will help me.  Critical thinking is good.  It helps me write better.

I try to acknowledge new bloggers and help with their confidence and reply to a few posts, but I just don’t follow something anymore that I know I have no real intention of ever going back, because then, what’s the point of “following?”  I really make an effort to make the rounds and read the people I follow.  If I haven’t gotten back to you lately, I will.  No one can follow 500 blogs.  You can like and you can reply, but don’t follow unless you really do intend to follow.


19 thoughts on “A Little Blog Here, a Big Blog There, Why Blog at All?

  1. The last post I read, regarding Jaimie’s loss of privileges left me pained and without words–in that moment.

    I may not have left a reply or if I did it may have been one or two words…My point is that I think that some blogs discourage comments because the topics and the affect is so intense that many people don’t know what to say. I know that I read as much as I can of the blogs of everyone who leaves a like or a comment on my blog…and I try to leave quality comments; but sometimes there are no words.

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    1. I understand and appreciate what you’re saying. There was a time when I wondered why I received so fewcomments on some posts and thought maybe people weren’t interested but then I looked at the comments that were left and realized the subject matter left people wondered what could they say? Certainly not “great blog”. It brought out deep emotion from some people. I then realized that often the silence was a comment and I had accomplished what I wanted to do, I made him human. He isn’t just an inmate in a prison. He’s a real person who has affected many lives. It gives me encouragement for the book I’m writing. There are other prison books on the market about what goes on inside prisons, but this more than that because he let’s you into his life. When he gets out he will an adult in years but a teenager in life experience and how does someone pick up his life again when he never had one in the first place?

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      1. Absolutely. When I read about him I see a flesh and blood person and I see his suffering and feel his shame.

        Unfortunately his sentence will not end when he is released. You are right, he will be an adult with the life experience of a teen, and don’t forget that “institutional” regression will actually cause him to feel younger.

        As far as comments. I have chosen to write about deeply personal experiences because I believe that the most political action we can take is to tell our personal truth.

        How does one respond to a poem that may be about incest. If people ‘like” it I know that it was read–But I wouldn’t know how to comment on such a post…

        So I don’t expect people to comment.

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    1. The guards give them the drugs? and then use it as a weapon? Because narcotics cause addictions. There are always ramifications for that. I have pain issues beyond my control. I’ve been on narcotics for 21 years. I know how I feel if I sleep to late, or take my evening dose too early and it goes beyond 12 hours. My dr wants to up my dose and i said no. I take as little as possible because I don’t want to take them, but I have no choice. But if my drs said, too bad, no more scripts I’d been in really bad shape, for more than one reason, and one of those reasons is the addiction. Whether for recreation or for pain, addiction is addiction.

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      1. It’s all about the money. There are so many illegal things brought into the prisons the inmates want. So many people are in on it. It’s easier to get drugs in prison than it is on the street, and when you have people who are depressed and can’t cope, or they had a previous problem with drugs, they think it helps to relive the situation and they can pretend it makes it easier to cope. The the drug is used as a weapon to make them do things they don’t want to do, or it is used as punishment or just plan masochistic tendencies from those who like to control other people. It is called “The world of animality”, which I will explain later. I think I will write a post about it ( after my post that is going to say, “Do you really want to go to heaven?”) It’s a very interesting concept and susceptible people fall into. It’s very easy when someone feels they need to blame other people for their own failings.

        I wish I had 4 hands so I could do more work at the same time, or eliminate sleeping! lol

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  2. My own following seems to be growing slowly and randomly, – a bit like my posts, which fits 🙂 I’m a new blogger so still figuring it all out, but enjoying the outlet enormously and the encouragement I feel when someone bothers to have a conversation with me is fantastic. I’m not a big fan of ‘like’ but at least it tells me I have had a visitor and a positive response of some sort. There are so many people out there with worthwhile things to say that reading and commenting is taking more time than working on my own blog at present, although I’m confident that will become more balanced with time. Your Jamie blog is absolutely heart wrenching, – and tells me you are an amazing person; I have come here for some light relief 🙂 and will be back! Sandy

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    1. Thank you so much for that. I have written posts that often don’t get much attention. that is why I changed my opening page which tells people to go back to the beginning instead of starting in the middle or the end, and now there are some posts that are starting to get more notice. It takes time to build quality readership. You have to be patient. Go into any big blogger and look at their early posts and see how much feedback they got. Not much. But yes, it takes time to read others stuff, but it’s all about blogging. It’s what you have to do. It really does work. If you look at the blog I started in Christmas it only has about 560 hits. I didn’t turn the comments on until about 4 days ago. But have 2 blogs sends people back and forth because I post links to the other on both of them. You are my last work of the nite. Have a good day tomorrow.

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  3. Ok i know this is a very serious post but i couldn’t help but laugh a this quote, forgive me “You like my blog and I’ll like yours kind of deal. Big deal, and no thanks. What turns me off is someone coming to my post and instead of saying anything meaningful about what I wrote, they write, “Thanks for following me”. Excuse me? The only reply I get is focused on you and not what I wrote? Don’t come back”. Anyway, as a newbie and a learner myself, i have learnt that building organic followers is far better than being found in google search. Once you have the dedicated following, Google would find you in search or so i hear.. I like your rave, it’s a;right. It’s not easy spreading the word once you start but eventually readers would notice the passion with which you write and you won’t have nay regrets. Keep going!!

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    1. What I like to see is the reason they found me. Was it a search on a particular issue within the prison industry. Did they read a comment I left on a website unrelated to wordpress. On google, people have found me because they research a topic because they now have someone in prison and they are trying to understand. I’m also trying to make my blog a resource for other people. A parent that has lost a child , or a spouse who lost a spouse is usually so hurt and scared and just trying to figure things out. They aren’t searching me per se. It’s interesting where some of these searches come from. I also watch to see the links on the right they search through as well. And yes, much patience is needed to have the right readership who finds what you write to be valuable.

      And hey! How’s the guitar playing going?

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      1. It’s all well and good. I will come up with a couple of videos soon. Oh i have some near prison break news for you from this side of the world. Some the accusations against the prison guards by the prisoners was horrible; like i already don’t know. (https://www.google.com.gh/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=2&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=0CCkQqQIwAQ&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.citifmonline.com%2F2015%2F02%2F05%2Fksi-central-prison-break-culpable-inmates-to-be-transferred%2F&ei=GrLTVMn9EILtUs_7gmg&usg=AFQjCNGn8fpekMQOgmJ2C4EusbSBpP3P_g&sig2=Qm4CS4Z4f5lYpI8MqnZrxg)

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  4. Great blog! ….Just kidding, no need to do anything mean here. I like the idea, and what you’re doing. This comment, well I don’t have a community yet. So I feel I have to indulge in a little mutual backscratching, at least at first. I haven’t hit follow with anyone I wasn’t interested in though, so there is that.

    Hoping people that I follow also follow me is one-half me being “that guy” and one-half me liking what you wrote. As such any comments I make, to anyone, will include a bit more than just “great post”. Of course, I’ve also been back to every post I hit follow on, at least once, even as “that guy.”

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    1. No, it’s important to get started to do a whole lot of “backscratching” to get started. That’s how we start building that community – by following each other. I just like to see replies that actually have substance to them, so there is something to actually reply to – like I’m doing now. What can someone say when the reply just says, “great blog” All you can say is thank you and that doesn’t promote any more conversation. You can’t get to know each other. Nagrij – you are doing just fine. There is a learning Curve I have found. Just stick with it.

      I read an article today that was really good, about writing.. I’m going to post it but I’m going to give it to you first.

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